Beginner’s Tips: A Gentle Guide to Getting Started

Start Slow (There’s No Rush)

If you’re new to intimate products:

• Choose something simple

• Avoid overwhelming features or intensity

• Give yourself time to explore

 

There’s no need to “level up” quickly. Comfort always comes first.

 

Choose Beginner-Friendly Products

Good beginner options often include:

• Simple vibrators with adjustable settings

• External-only products

• Small, lightweight designs

• Body-safe silicone materials

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Look for products described as gentle, beginner-friendly, or low intensity.

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Read the Product Details

Before purchasing:

• Check product size and dimensions

• Read material information

• Review care and cleaning instructions

• Make sure the product suits your comfort level

 

If you’re unsure, it’s always okay to ask questions.

 

Use Lubricant

Lubricant can make a big difference — even for experienced users.

• Start with a water-based lubricant

• Use more than you think you need

• Reapply as needed

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Lubricant improves comfort and helps reduce irritation.

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Get Comfortable First

Before using any product:

• Choose a relaxed, private environment

• Take your time

• Focus on comfort and curiosity, not performance

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This is about exploration, not expectations.

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Follow Instructions & Safety Guidance

Always:

• Read instructions before use

• Clean products before and after use

• Start on the lowest setting

• Stop if something feels uncomfortable

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Listening to your body is the most important rule.

 

Take Care of Hygiene

Good hygiene helps you feel confident and safe:

• Clean toys before first use

• Clean after every use

• Let toys dry fully before storing

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You can find more details in our Toy Cleaning Guide.

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It’s Okay to Feel Unsure

If you feel nervous, awkward, or unsure — that’s completely normal.

There’s no pressure to:

• Enjoy everything immediately

• Use products in a certain way

• Share experiences unless you want to

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Everyone’s journey is different.

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Communicate (If You’re Sharing the Experience)

If you’re using products with a partner:

• Talk openly about comfort and boundaries

• Start slowly together

• Check in with each other

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Consent and communication make experiences better for everyone.

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When to Stop

Stop using a product if:

• You feel pain or discomfort

• The product doesn’t feel right

• Something causes irritation

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There’s no obligation to push through discomfort.

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Ask for Help

If you’re unsure which product is right for you, we’re always happy to help.

📧 Contact us: winkandwhisper@gmail.com

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No judgement. No pressure. Just support.

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A Final Note

Exploration should feel safe, respectful, and empowering.

Whether you’re curious, cautious, or confident — you’re welcome here.